Posted in enart.xn--gmq282eogn.com on the March 14, 2010
Heres the situation last year my causin introduced me to this guy and I really like him alot well one night she had a bday party and invited him and his brother we had alot of fun and got drunk and we had sex well right after sex he bailed out on me and made me feel like a piece of trash, but that was the first time he acted like that because we had sex before....Well after he left his brother consoled me and we were both drunk and he made a move on me and one thing led to another, but I felt soooo bad because I had feelings for his brother so we ended up having sex and I told his brother what happened and he shrugged it off, but I knew it hurt him, but it he hurt me and I still like him alot and last weekend he came by and spent the night and we had sex again it felt so right and I just want to be with him, but Im afraid he wont settle down with me because he is a player and I dont know what to say or do or even how to approach him with these feeling what should I say or do?
You need to keep your pants on. No one is going to respect you if you dont respect yourself. There is a reason you felt like trash, and thats because some part of you knew that you shouldnt be doing what you are doing. You need to concentrate on school. In the long run thats the only thing that matters right now.
I know that I am being harsh, but its for a good reason. I had my son when I was 16. Looking back now I know why I suffered through such sh**y relationships. I thought that by having sex with boys I was showing them that I cared. And I loved being able to be "close" with someone for a while. But boys your age see sex as SEX. Thats all. And if they know they can get it from you, then they are going to come to you for one reason only. If you think that you have found someone that cares about you, then why dont you put that to the test. Leave all the sex out. If he cares he will still be by your side. You are too young hun. Please dont make the same mistakes that I did. Some day you will understand it all. But for now. Just love yourself and make good choices that will save you from all the drama and heart ache.Do some volunteer work? Realize there are people dying from hunger, disease, poverty? Get a toy? Learn how to love yourself instead of getting gratification from offering free sex? Sigh...but then again, so many people are doing the same nowadays.
Just try to love yourself more and not wait for someone else to come and do that for you alright? You have to do the work, once you figure that out, nobody can hurt you girly girl.If you think he is a player why would you have sex with him? Hopefully you used protection. Lots of STDs these days... so make sure you protect yourself. I 'm confused as to how you ended up having sex with his brother too. You say when he bailed on you..you felt like trash, maybe you should seek counseling to find out why you are being so promiscuous,. You do not need a man to make you feel good, you need to work on your self esteem and confidence and realize that a lot of guys just use women for sex. Then ask yourself are you truly really o.k. with that? If he was really interested, wouldn't he'd ask you out on a date. Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk free, if you know what I mean. I think you need to find yourself and figure out who you are and what you want out of life, Don't just settle for being his bootie call if he is not willing to spend time and treat you with respect. Surely you want more respect from a guy than that, don't you? Only you can answer that. jmho. Good Luck#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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